Love & Liberation with Olivia Clementine Dr. Betty Martin: Eros is Yours & Abandoning Technique
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Jan 11, 2022 Betty Martin, author of The Wheel of Consent and a seasoned teacher of erotic education, explores the depths of personal eroticism and the art of consent. She breaks down the Wheel of Consent's four quadrants, helping listeners understand how to separate giving from receiving. Betty discusses the vulnerability in making direct requests and how clear agreements foster safety in intimacy. She also challenges the myths surrounding technique, encouraging genuine communication of desires. Finally, she emphasizes the importance of play in relationships, even amidst isolation.
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Take The Risk Yourself
- Bring up new sexual ideas outside the bedroom and offer to take the risk yourself by asking if your partner is open.
- Phrase it as curiosity: "I've been thinking about this; are you open to hearing about it?"
Use Containers And Keep Agreements
- Use strict agreements and a timed container (like the three-minute game) to create safety during practice.
- Stick to the agreed role so the receiver can relax knowing where touch will and won't go.
Choice Enables Relaxation
- Knowing you have a genuine choice about how you're touched is essential to relaxing and enjoying touch.
- Choice includes changing your mind in the moment and directing intensity or location.
