It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People Passive Aggressive Behavior: Is It High Conflict?
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Mar 19, 2026 They unpack passive aggressive behavior as aggression with built-in deniability. They explain how it shows up at home and in the workplace with real examples. They cover ways to confront it, enforce consequences, and withdraw support when patterns persist. They also explore when avoidance masks fear and how to stay confident and emotionally unshaken.
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Passive Aggression Is Aggression With Deniability
- Passive aggressive behavior is aggression with plausible deniability rather than direct hostility.
- Bill Eddy explains it lets people 'claim they're not angry' while actions like sarcasm or deliberate inefficiency communicate the opposite.
Set Limits And Enforce Consequences
- Treat passive aggressive acts as aggressive behavior and set limits with clear consequences rather than getting stuck on denial.
- Bill advises stating consequences (e.g., withdraw support) and follow through matter-of-factly if the pattern continues.
Psychiatrist Blamed Others Then Denied Responsibility
- Bill recounts a psychiatric hospital meeting where a psychiatrist publicly blamed tasks on others then denied responsibility.
- The incident 'stuck' because the psychiatrist used deniability to kick Bill 'in the knees' in front of colleagues.
