Ladies, We Need To Talk Family Feuds: Is estrangement the new normal?
Apr 6, 2026
Dr Kayla Steele, clinical psychologist at the Black Dog Institute, explains ambiguous loss and why family rifts happen. She discusses whether estrangement is rising, the shame and ripple effects it causes, and practical steps for repairing relationships or setting boundaries. Short, clear takes on moving forward and filling life with positives after loss.
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Motherhood Shattered By Sudden No Contact
- Jessica was blindsided when her eldest son told her he wouldn't keep in contact and she felt powerless and panicked.
- The shock lasted over a year with daily crying, ruminating anxiety and attempts to call him repeatedly until she realised she was blocked.
Daughter Cut Ties After A Life Of Lies
- Cody's father groomed her with extravagant 'daddy-daughter' days and secretive stories, then later revealed fabricated war medals and illnesses.
- She confronted him in her early 20s, tried to cut contact, but he repeatedly used illness and manipulation to reel her back in.
Estrangement Is Ambiguous Loss
- Dr Kayla Steele describes estrangement as an ambiguous loss where the person is physically alive but emotionally or physically absent.
- Causes are rarely single events and often include abuse, neglect, repeated boundary violations or long-term value clashes.