Sexy Marriage Radio SMR#242: Getting Your Spouse In The Mood
Jun 22, 2016
Explore the complexities of intimacy as the hosts discuss whose role it is to get a partner in the mood. They tackle the dynamics of over-functioning and under-functioning in relationships, emphasizing communication and accountability. Learn creative ways to connect sexually and the importance of addressing mismatched desires. The conversation highlights the impact of expectations shaped by porn and encourages couples to own their responsibilities for a healthier marriage.
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Listener's Bucket‑List Sex Stories
- Ryan shared bucket‑list sex ideas like vehicle sex, outdoor sex, and a pillow‑filled truck bed.
- These examples show creative planning and prioritizing connection over perfect outcomes.
Over‑Functioner vs Under‑Functioner Pattern
- Expect one partner to often over-function sexually while the other under-functions; this follows what matters more to each person.
- Labeling this as over-functioner/under-functioner reveals longstanding imbalance patterns in marriage.
Don't Make A Partner Dependent On You
- Trying to 'get an unaroused woman aroused' creates a dysfunctional dynamic where one partner always does the work.
- That dynamic enables passivity and eventually drains the initiator's motivation.