18Forty Podcast

What To Do When Families Become Estranged [Re-Release]

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Nov 25, 2025
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ANECDOTE

Coleman's Personal Estrangement Turnaround

  • Dr. Coleman was estranged from his daughter in her early 20s after his divorce and remarriage, which taught him to change tactics.
  • His shift to empathy and responsibility helped restore the relationship and inspired his books and practice.
INSIGHT

Wealth Can Increase Individuation Risk

  • Financial generosity can reduce perceived obligation and increase individuation, which may raise estrangement risk.
  • Wealthier families sometimes attribute success to self, minimizing parental contributions.
ADVICE

Choose Values Or The Relationship

  • Some estrangements are justifiable when a parent remains unrepentant and harms the child's well-being; choose values knowingly.
  • If parents insist on rejecting the child's identity, expect a binary choice: values or relationship.
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