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More Happier: Do Holidays Leave You Exhausted, Not Restored? Priya Parker, Francis Lam & Kate Bowler on Celebration

Nov 22, 2025
This roundtable features Priya Parker, a facilitator and author focused on meaningful gatherings; Francis Lam, a culinary expert passionate about food rituals; and Kate Bowler, an author studying success and grief. They dive into making holidays more meaningful by defining gathering purposes and using food as a ritual. Participants discuss ways to involve guests in preparation, embrace grief, and ease societal pressures surrounding celebrations. Practical tips include themed contributions and unique rituals that foster connection and honor complex emotions.
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ADVICE

Design The Invitation

  • Begin shaping a gathering with the invitation to set expectations and mindset.
  • Ask guests to contribute specific items or tasks rather than vague 'bring something' requests.
ADVICE

Make Space For Grief

  • Allow grief and mixed emotions at holidays instead of enforcing 'good vibes only.'
  • Name a small ritual or moment for mourning so loss is acknowledged without derailing the event.
ANECDOTE

Backyard Fire For Catharsis

  • One family lit a backyard fire, burned an insensitive bereavement card, and shared funny stories together.
  • That off-script catharsis helped them grieve and simultaneously create a gentle joyful moment.
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