AuDHD Flourishing 137 Spending and Money Unfairness
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Apr 4, 2026 A candid look at money through the lens of justice sensitivity and feelings of unfairness about earnings and careers. Personal stories show how newfound income can trigger compensatory spending. Practical tactics cover cutting ad exposure, adding friction to purchases, and buying directly from cheaper sources. The conversation also examines consumerism, comparison, and compassionate ways to revisit past spending.
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From $6,000 Year To Compulsive Catch-Up Spending
- Mattia recounts making as little as $6,000 in a year and surviving on very cheap housing in their 20s.
- When income rose just enough to meet needs, they found themselves spending more to 'catch up' on lost experiences like travel and dining.
Acknowledge The Unfairness Before Spending
- Comfort the part of you that feels unfairly treated instead of immediately spending to soothe it.
- Build a holistic picture of finances so you can tell what money is genuinely 'extra' versus needed for taxes or essentials.
Social Advertising Turns Buying Into Comparison
- Consumerism and social comparison magnify spending urges because buying is framed as a way to 'have' experiences others show publicly.
- Mattia notes US consumer culture and social advertising (e.g., TikTok) make purchases feel like community belonging.
