AuDHD Flourishing 117 PDA + AuDHD
Oct 25, 2025
Explore the complex interplay of PDA, ADHD, and autism, and how they affect relationships and stress levels. Learn about the triggers of PDA as fight-or-flight responses and the importance of autonomy in daily tasks. Mattia delves into childhood experiences of shame and masking, offering insights into comforting the inner child. Discover practical strategies for co-regulation and energy conservation, while uncovering the strengths within PDA behaviors. The discussion emphasizes personal stories and resilience, weaving hope and encouragement throughout.
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Cleaning Triggered Childhood Trauma
- Mattia recounts never learning cleaning skills due to abuse and neglect, causing shame and task-triggered trauma.
- They used Internal Family Systems-style comforting to invite the stuck child part to live with them now.
Make A Personal Chore Rationale
- Do build a personalized, large-scale justification for boring maintenance tasks to make them feel worth doing.
- Do set realistic metrics (e.g., allowed hours per day) to reduce guilt and recalibrate expectations.
Energy Conservation Drives PDA
- Many PDA triggers relate to autonomy and energy conservation rather than laziness.
- Noticing neurotype increases awareness of energy costs and leads bodies to set stronger boundaries.