I Have ADHD Podcast 326 ADHD Nearly Broke Us — How We’re Still Standing After 21 Years with Greg Carder
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Jul 22, 2025 In this conversation, Greg Carder, husband of Kristen and neurotypical partner for 21 years, candidly discusses the realities of their neurodiverse marriage. He shares how he learned to understand and accept Kristen's ADHD, emphasizing that acceptance requires action. The couple reflects on parenting neurodivergent kids, balancing emotional needs, and avoiding the parent-child dynamic in their relationship. Their humor and honesty shine through as they explore communication, support strategies, and the joys and challenges of growing together.
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Practice Active Empathy and Acceptance
- Partners should listen openly and empathetically to their ADHD loved ones without personalizing behaviors.
- Acceptance requires effort to see their experience as truthful and real, beyond personal bias.
Use Trusted Resources to Educate
- Share credible ADHD content like podcasts or reels to help reluctant partners understand.
- Avoid arguing personal feelings; instead, leverage science and research to validate experiences.
Be Patient to Avoid Defensiveness
- Present information gently and patiently to avoid triggering defensiveness in your partner.
- A defensive partner won't process or accept ADHD insights effectively.