On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Dr. Gabor Maté: Constantly Worrying What People Think of You? (THIS Simple Shift Will Help You Trust Yourself and Stop Seeking Approval)

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Apr 1, 2026
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Gabor Maté
Dr. Gabor Maté, physician, trauma expert, and bestselling author, explores why approval seeking begins in childhood. He gets into generational patterns, productivity based self worth, and how stress can shape illness. They also dive into guilt around rest, the power of saying no, compassionate inquiry, and reconnecting with what feels true.
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ADVICE

Find The No You Keep Refusing To Say

  • Start by asking where you are not saying no even though your body wants to.
  • Gabor Maté says the missed no usually appears in work or close relationships, often from fear of disappointing people or losing approval.
INSIGHT

Why Your No Protects Your Sense Of Self

  • A healthy no is how a child builds a self before any yes can be meaningful.
  • Gabor Maté uses a two-year-old insisting No, I want an apple and Elvis becoming a puppet to show the cost of losing that boundary.
ADVICE

Use Compassionate Inquiry To Hear Your Inner Voice

  • Stop assuming something is wrong with you and ask better questions that let truth surface.
  • In the live inquiry, Gabor Maté guides a mother from vague peace to embodied confidence by asking what her committed self feels like in her body.
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