In the Market with Janet Parshall This Was Never The Plan
Mar 26, 2026
A candid conversation about walking through divorce with honesty and faith. Topics include grieving as if for a death, letting go of hopes for reconciliation, and confronting shame and identity loss. They talk about single parenting, protecting children emotionally, and navigating dating and remarriage choices. The focus is on lament, trusting God amid uncertainty, and finding community and hope afterward.
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Blindsided By A Double Life
- Vaneetha Risner describes being blindsided when her husband left after 18 years, discovering he'd been living a double life and marrying another woman soon after.
- She kept journals during the breakup which later became the raw material for her book and healing process.
Choose Present Trust Over Outcome Fixation
- Let go of clinging to a single outcome and root yourself where you are by trusting God's present plans instead of future reconciliation.
- Vaneetha found Jeremiah 29's call to 'live where you are' helped her choose mental closure before legal divorce.
Divorce Feels Like A Funeralless Death
- Divorce feels like a death because the shared life and stories disappear, yet there is typically no funeral or communal rituals.
- Vaneetha notes people stop reminiscing, pictures come down, and the community rarely provides the same practical comfort as for a bereavement.
