The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers Why you constantly need approval from other people (and how to stop)
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Feb 9, 2026 A discussion about why needing constant approval happens and when it becomes harmful. Signs to watch for, like changing your tastes or overthinking others' opinions, are highlighted. Roots in a harsh inner critic and pretending to be someone else are explored. Practical steps to build self-appreciation and practice small acts of vulnerability are offered to foster more genuine connection.
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Stop Letting One Voice Decide
- Notice if one negative opinion makes you discard a decision and treat that as a red flag.
- Avoid letting others' views outweigh yours on choices that primarily affect you.
Weigh Your Opinion More On Personal Choices
- Don't prioritize others' opinions over your own on personal decisions like what house to buy.
- Keep your values central when decisions mainly affect you, not observers.
Self-Criticism Fuels Approval Addiction
- A poor internal relationship drives external approval-seeking because self-criticism creates an emotional void.
- Relying solely on others for worth makes you vulnerable and unstable.
