KQED's Forum Are We 'Overinvested' in Our Kids?
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Jan 29, 2026 Nina Bandelj, UC Irvine sociology professor and author of Overinvested, examines how modern parenting became emotionally and financially intense. She explores why devotion to children feels inevitable. She discusses policy effects on parental well being, the ratchet of competitive parenting, privatized caregiving, and ways communities can reclaim shared care and let kids be bored and independent.
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Emotional Bonding Replaced Independence Goals
- Modern parenting emphasizes a sacred loving bond and prioritizes children’s emotional well-being over fostering independence.
- This shift can make parenting more exhausting and less focused on raising independent adults.
Opt Out Together
- Work with other families and community members to opt out of competitive parenting norms together.
- Collective action makes it easier to change structures like social media pressure and hyper-competitive youth sports.
Why The Parenting Ratchet Locks In
- The 'ratchet' of competitive parenting is driven by economic optimization marrying emotional devotion.
- Parents feel locked into investing more because productivity logic and emotions reinforce each other.
