The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

Ep. 150: Why You Can Know What to Do and Still Not Do It?!

Sep 12, 2023

Ever wondered why knowing the right parenting strategies doesn't always lead to action? This discussion delves into the neuroscience behind behavior, highlighting how much of our actions stem from unconscious processes. It explores the impact of a sensitized stress response on parenting, revealing why regulated and connected parents can better support their children. The conversation also emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and compassion, making it clear that struggling with these challenges doesn’t mean you’re a bad parent.

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Navigating Parenting Challenges: Understanding Behavior and Self-Regulation

00:00 • 40min

You’ve probably wondered how you can know the neuroscience of behavior and have a toolbox full of tools…and still struggle to actually USE those tools.

Most parents have the thought “If I know what to do, why aren’t I actually doing it???”

It’s not because you’re a bad parent.

It’s because you’re dysregulated, have a sensitized stress response system, and probably have some implicit memories that leave you vulnerable to being triggered.

In this episode you’ll learn:

How very little of our behavior comes from conscious thought
Why your sensitized stress response system leaves you vulnerable
Why regulated, connected parents who feel safe parent the way they want to

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors released September 21. CLICK HERE to choose from a variety of pre-order bonuses, including a signed copy or 20% off.
When Parenting is Traumatic {EP 95}
Beginning of the memory series: Trauma, Memory, & Behavior Part 1 {EP 90}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/knowwhattodo

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