This episode we discuss Unconditional Love, both for ourselves and other people in our lives.
Unconditional Love:
- assumes people are doing the best they can
- drops unrealistic expectations
- is a choice
- gives grace
- is for the benefit of the GIVER of unconditional love
- choosing the feeling of love (in spite of human imperfection) feels so much better in our bodies than the alternatives
- starts with unconditional love for ourselves. It’s hard to do something that you’ve never experienced yourself
- doesn’t mean you diminish yourself. You can still choose to love someone and leave, out of love for yourself
- absolutely includes healthy boundaries and consequences
- isn’t people pleasing. It comes from a place without expectations of appreciation and reciprocation, and isn’t in exchange for being liked.
- isn’t the norm- many of us have only experienced conditional love
Quotables:
- “But the truth is unconditional love feels so good and so amazing. And we can choose it any time.”
- “That feeling that you’re experiencing, when you’re judging and loathing somebody, that person’s not feeling it, only you are.”
- “You’re only punishing yourself, carrying these judgemental, loathsome attitudes.”
- “Humans are humans. They get to act however they are going to act. You cannot control them, but you can still choose unconditional love.”
- “What is love anyway…it is the sincere and earnest desire for the wellbeing of someone.”
- “I first need to allow myself to experience unconditional love, which means I have grace for myself.”
- “There’s a lot of forgiveness. There's a lot of grace, and it actually is truly very freeing.”
- “I love being able to look at myself and see all my own faults, idiosyncrasies, shortcomings, and still be my own cheerleader.”
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