The Catholic Coaching Podcast 36. Be Happy With Your Boundaries
Apr 1, 2021
They explore emotional boundaries as invisible property lines that protect dignity and honesty. They debunk the myth that boundaries are mean and show how they foster authentic relationships. Practical tips include a three-step boundary practice, enforcing consequences, and using journaling to refine limits. They also discuss handling unavoidable relationships with charity and interior work first.
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A Fevered Night That Deepened Prayer
- Matt shares how his daughter's fever and his powerlessness led to sincere prayer and humility during Holy Week.
- He describes climbing into bed, praying earnestly at 3 a.m., and entering powerlessness as a spiritual gift.
Fix Thoughts Before Forcing Behavior Change
- Boundary work should start by examining the thoughts that cause compulsive yeses rather than only changing behavior.
- Erin and Matt argue people-pleasing stems from beliefs like I need others to like me, so cleanse that interior attachment before enforcing boundaries.
Humility Underpins Honest Boundaries
- Humility is required for healthy boundaries because saying yes often means saying no elsewhere and dishonesty is prideful.
- Matt frames a dishonest yes (overcommitting at church) as pride that harms family duties and leads to resentment.
