Modern Wisdom #1072 - Dr Debra Soh - Why Nobody is Having Sex Anymore (& why it matters)
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Mar 16, 2026 
Debra Soh, a neuroscientist and sex researcher, explores why modern intimacy is collapsing. She gets into the sex recession, porn as a substitute, and how smartphones and social media changed dating. There’s also a look at hypergamy, plastic surgery, falling fertility, AI partners, and why real world courtship feels harder than ever.
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Plastic Surgery Now Starts Earlier And Gets More Intimate
- Debra Soh argues plastic surgery trends increasingly track social media and porn rather than medical need.
- She points to Gen Z breast augmentation, labiaplasty, and women under 30 getting facelifts or eye lifts to compete in appearance markets.
Looksmaxxing Pushes Beauty Into Caricature
- Chris Williamson says modern looksmaxxing exaggerates sexually dimorphic traits into caricatures, like jaws, cheekbones, height, breasts, and brows.
- He compares it to runaway sexual selection, where attractiveness cues become so extreme they start to look unnatural.
Men Often Optimize For Formidability Not Attractiveness
- Chris Williamson argues many men who looksmaxx are optimizing for what intimidates other men more than what attracts women.
- He cites research where male ratings of formidability predicted sexual success better than female ratings of attractiveness.
