Become New with John Ortberg 48. 10 Things Jesus Never Did
Apr 2, 2026
A look at ten sneaky passive-aggressive behaviors that quietly damage relationships, from eye rolls to silent treatment. The conversation contrasts indirect actions with direct, honest engagement and vulnerability. Practical prompts encourage noticing where frustration leaks out and choosing clearer, loving communication instead.
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Jesus Chose Directness Over Passive Aggression
- Jesus modeled directness rather than passive-aggression as a way of relating to others.
- John Ortberg contrasts examples like the eye roll and Luke 2 (young Jesus with his parents) to show Jesus spoke truth without contempt.
Family Example Of Learning To Stop Passive Aggression
- John Ortberg shares a personal family detail about his father studying passive-aggressive behavior near death.
- His dad,
Sighing Without Silence Is Not Passive Aggression
- Jesus rarely used nonverbal contempt like eye rolls or martyr sighs to manipulate others' emotions.
- Ortberg cites Mark 8 where Jesus sighs but then speaks directly, showing transparency not passive-aggression.