Listener question: mirrors and resentment

Listener question: Today I got triggered by a colleague, deep hurt was felt because I could feel hatred oozing from him. It seemed like he projected his unfounded hatred onto me, constant micro aggressions and the whole day there was a toxic atmosphere in the air. He apologised but continued to be hostile.

It seemed I had a slightly different perspective on this than in the past, I could see that it was his thought storm and I didn’t have to go automatically into self blame. But still I was trying to fix the situation, by being on my best behaviour while he was just being a dick. Where am I the dick in this picture? 

What does this situation mirror? 

There wasn’t any knee jerk reaction from my part, so I guess that’s what you mean with custodianship without choice? 

Im curious to see more in this example.