# 19 Gary Allen: You’re Not Broken, So You Don’t Need Fixing

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What if the thing you can’t control becomes the reason you double down on the thing you can?

Gary was born with Spina Bifida and been a wheelchair user most of his life. On paper, he did everything right: degree, 30-year career in IT, stability, the life most people chase.

But purpose doesn’t live on paper.

At 45, he asked: “Is this it?”

He gave up alcohol in 2018, unlocked energy and clarity he’d never felt before, and by 2023 had left corporate behind to become a full-time coach.

Now he helps people in midlife rebuild self-trust, shift habits, and discover it’s never too late to change.

In this episode, we dive into:

🟧 Why self-belief started at home, with parents who never treated him differently

🟧 The hidden cost of 30 years in corporate (and why security can be a trap)

🟧 Giving up alcohol → energy + clarity → a new chapter

🟧 Why “burn the boats” is the worst advice for most people🟧 Awareness → action → acknowledgement: the real system for rebuilding self-trust

🟧 Why ordinary days well-lived matter more than chasing peak moments

🟧 The lie of “I’m an all-or-nothing person” — and how to flip it

Whether you’re 25, 45, or 65 — this one’s proof that reinvention doesn’t have an expiry date.

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