The Francesca Psychology Podcast Childhood Neglect & Feeling Like You Can Never Belong - Anna Runkle
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Oct 13, 2025 
Anna Runkle, the Crappy Childhood Fairy, helps people heal from childhood trauma. She discusses how childhood neglect impacts our ability to connect and the signs of being ostracized in youth. Anna breaks down self-isolation and offers strategies to combat it, emphasizing the importance of cultivating 'connectability.' She also explains limerence and trauma bonds, guiding listeners on how to recognize healthy relationships. With practical tips for finding your community, Anna empowers others to embrace their true selves and foster deeper connections.
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Choosing Unavailable Partners
- Anna describes repeatedly choosing unavailable, avoidant partners and realising she herself was avoidant in relationships.
- That insight helped her seek relationships where partners meet her halfway instead of repeating hot‑cold dynamics.
Why Limerence Hooks Traumatized People
- Limerence is an addictive romantic obsession often rooted in childhood inconsistency or parental hot‑cold behaviour.
- That intermittent reinforcement creates an eroticisation of abandonment where rejection fuels attraction.
Stop The Poison To Heal Bonds
- Break trauma bonds by 'stopping the poison': remove or end relationships that keep you hooked on unavailable people.
- End exploitative or limerent relationships kindly but firmly to make room for healthier connections.
