The Imperfects IMPERFIX: Truth vs Harmony with Dr Em
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Mar 27, 2024 Dr Em, an expert in Truth vs Harmony, discusses the battle between living truthfully or harmoniously. The podcast explores the impact on individuals and relationships, highlighting the importance of balance, assertiveness, and authenticity. Emphasizing the challenges faced by chronic people-pleasers and the power of speaking truth in relationships.
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Belonging Shapes How We Handle Conflict
- Humans have a deep, lifelong need to belong that drives us to seek approval from parents and others.
- Childhood attachment patterns shape whether we learn to express needs or protect safety by staying silent.
Adaptive Silence Can Become A Problem
- Staying quiet to avoid conflict can be an adaptive survival skill in abusive or high-risk homes.
- That same adaptive skill can later become a chronic pattern of people-pleasing that limits expressing needs.
Notice Triggers And Bodily Signals
- Check when and how you default to pleasing others by noticing your triggers and bodily signals.
- Use that bodily awareness as a cue to pause and consider whether your need is being compromised.