291: What Am I Not Noticing? A Tool for Getting Unstuck

What if the story making you feel stuck isn't wrong — it's just incomplete?

War, inflation, outrage and doomscrolling.  This week Michele shares one of her favorite coaching tools — a single question that interrupts that tunnel vision and opens up what you couldn't see before. 

In this episode:

• Why rumination narrows attention — and what the science says about breaking that loop

• How unsupportive partners, friends, and dinner tables feel like the whole story — and why they're not

• The "I can't afford it" story, and what you're probably not noticing inside it

• Why this is NOT positive thinking, denial, or pretending things are fine

• The doomscrolling trap: how to stop handing your nervous system to the headlines

• A simple 4-step practice you can use anywhere, anytime

The question at the center of it all:
What am I not noticing that is not that?

The 4-step practice:

1. Name the "that" — what story are you treating as the whole truth?

2. Notice how it shows up — sentence, image, pressure, knot, voice?

3. Soften your eyes — widen your gaze and take in the room

4. Ask the question — then find one "not-that" move you can make next

Resources mentioned:

• Research on rumination and attentional narrowing: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3773498/

• Open-monitoring mindfulness research: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5195874/

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