EP 422 – I Hired a Male Escort | Coral Osborne

Apr 27, 2026

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I found Coral Osborne through a Substack piece she wrote titled "I Hired a Male Escort" — and I'll be honest, the title got me. But it was what she unpacked inside it that made me want to get her on the show. Coral spent years as a closeted sex worker, and what she found in those rooms wasn't what most people assume. Men showed up without their masks on. There were clear boundaries. And the connection — strange as it sounds — was often more honest than anything she found in conventional dating.

Then she hired a male escort. Not to collect an experience, but to find out what would happen if she stopped performing and just received. What came up surprised her — and became the essay that brought her to this show.

Coral is a sexologist and intimacy coach who works with men at the intersection of identity, desire, and shadow. This conversation goes deep into the psychology of fantasy, the difference between what turns you on and what you actually want, and why so many men have gone completely numb — not just sexually, but in every area of their lives.

We also get into why less than 14% of therapists in North America have any sexuality training, what your darkest fantasy actually says about you, and why the men who say "I don't really have fantasies" are the ones who can't hold a relationship past the two-year mark.

If you've ever wondered what your sex life is actually telling you about yourself — this one's for you.

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Read Coral's essays:

Part 1: https://substack.com/@coralosborne/p-190840262

Part 2: https://substack.com/@coralosborne/p-190843310

Connect with Coral:

Website: https://coralosborne.com

Substack: https://substack.com/@coralosborne

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunrealcoralosborne/

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