Change Signal

The Four Leadership Paradoxes: Michael Bungay Stanier

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Mar 4, 2026
Explores how leadership is about who you are beneath the tools. Breaks down four core tensions: humble confidence, fierce love, light yet grounded process, and caring without controlling. Challenges leaders to hold paradox rather than solve it. Invites reflection on which tension to practice next.
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INSIGHT

Being Over Doing In Coaching

  • Coaching is more about the being of the coach than just asking good questions.
  • Michael Bungay-Stanier says great coaches obsess over how they show up, not just their question toolkit, which is shallow above-the-waterline work.
ADVICE

Apply The Paradoxes To One Person

  • Make the four paradoxes practical by applying them to one person involved in your change effort.
  • Michael Bungay-Stanier asks listeners to pick someone (team member, boss, collaborator) and evaluate each paradox against them.
ADVICE

Show Up With Humble Confidence

  • Show up with humble confidence: acknowledge your limits and claim your strengths equally.
  • Michael Bungay-Stanier advises holding both humility and confidence lightly so you neither underplay nor overperform.
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