WTF is AuDHD? E58 | You think you're the problem? That's Internalised Ableism
Mar 16, 2026
A candid unpacking of internalised ableism and how society’s messages get turned inward. Stories about late diagnosis, shame, and the strain of fitting into neurotypical routines. Everyday examples like office sensory overload, school norms, and relationship doubts. Practical moves toward self-kindness and spotting structural barriers.
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Picked Up Dog Poop To Avoid Being Judged
- Ellie panicked when her dog pooped without bags and chose to pick it up rather than risk being perceived as inconsiderate.
- She walked 200 metres home holding the turds, then faced disgust from her partner, illustrating masking to avoid negative perception.
What Internalised Ableism Really Feels Like
- Internalised ableism is when negative societal messages about disability become your inner voice.
- Ellie explains late diagnosis means you may have believed you're lazy or failing for years until you get a diagnosis.
Workplaces Are Built On Ableist Assumptions
- Ableism shows up structurally when workplaces assume everyone can perform the same way, like enforcing nine-to-five under fluorescent lights.
- Ellie notes those environments disregard sensory needs and energy differences, disadvantaging neurodivergent people.