The Dr. Psych Mom Show
with clinical psychologist
Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten There Is No Way To Love Or Respect Your Husband While Dismissing His Desire For Sex
Feb 15, 2023
A frank look at how dismissing a partner's sexual needs affects love and respect in marriage. Comparisons to infant touch highlight why physical affection matters. Discussion of what sexlessness signals about value and self-worth. Practical ethical options for sex-averse partners and why men often stay in unsatisfying marriages. A warning about how denied affection can lead to emotional or physical affairs.
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Dismissing Sex Contradicts Love And Respect
- You cannot truly love or respect a husband while dismissing his need for sex as unimportant.
- Dr. Samantha Rodman Whiten compares physical touch's role in adults to picking up a baby to show it's a basic human need.
Sexless Marriage Sends A Message About Worth
- A sexless marriage signals to the denied partner that they're worthless, low-esteem, or trapped rather than respected.
- Whiten explains how staying in such a marriage is often interpreted as believing one couldn't do better or has been convinced sex doesn't matter.
One Core Deficit Can Nullify Other Strengths
- Sexual/affection deficits can erase other positive partner qualities just like alcoholism cancels out attractiveness or income.
- Whiten compares a sexless marriage to a husband who's a functioning alcoholic: one critical deficit outweighs many positives.