The Hook Up Unpacking Adolescence, The Manosphere and The 80/20 Rule
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Apr 1, 2025 Ryder Jack, principal facilitator at Tomorrow Man who runs workshops challenging rigid gender norms. He discusses Netflix’s Adolescence and links to toxic masculinity and incel culture. Conversations cover young men’s confusion about masculinity, dating app pressures and the 80/20 idea. Practical moves to encourage vulnerability, role models and safer ways for men to open up are explored.
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Adolescence Connects Crime To Masculinity Conditioning
- Adolescence uses a one-take format to spotlight how knife crime and incel culture connect to masculine socialisation.
- Ryder Jack and hosts tie the show's portrayal to real-world UK knife attacks and rising online manosphere threads pulling isolated boys toward violence.
Dating Apps Felt Like Roulette And Performance
- Nathan describes dating apps as a roulette where matches often lead to silence and no replies.
- He says the pressure to craft a perfect opener forces men to perform humour and removes room to be genuinely themselves.
Teach Boys A Training Ground For Accountability
- Do create spaces where boys can practise vulnerability and accountability instead of relying on banter to process rejection.
- Ryder Jack recommends training-ground workshops (Tomorrow Man) that teach boys to sit with discomfort and take responsibility after being rejected.