Tara Brach This Messy, Gorgeous Love—a Conversation with Tara and Devon and Nico Hase
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Apr 9, 2026 
Nico Hase, Buddhist teacher who explores intimacy and impermanence, and Devin Hase, Dharma-guided author offering practical partnership tools. They talk about vows as spiritual practice, navigating big ruptures and nervous-system differences, conflict styles and co-regulation, bringing mindfulness into sexuality, and how impermanence and intentional joy deepen connection.
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Vows To Be Partners In Awakening
- Devin and Nico wrote wedding vows to be "partners in awakening," making spiritual practice a north star for their marriage.
- They consciously framed their relationship as mutual commitment to bodhicitta, guiding choices during early ruptures and decisions.
Judge A Relationship By Bodhicitta
- Devin's teacher suggested evaluating partnership by asking, Is our relationship growing bodhicitta in the world?
- Framing the relationship as service to others clarified choices and reinforced commitment during doubts.
Van Nearly Went Off A Cliff
- Nico recounts the van-on-a-cliff incident where his driving nearly sent their RV over a cliff, triggering panic and a needed repair process.
- Devin needed space to self-regulate while Nico accepted fault, contacted help, and they reconnected after cooling off.
