Finding Love (and Losing It)

In Speaking in Thumbs, Dr. Mimi Winsberg analyzes texts across the romance lifecycle—from initial exchanges to breakups—empowering readers to recognize patterns, avoid mistakes, and foster real connections. Drawing on her expertise at the intersection of digital health and dating, she reveals how language matching, emojis, response times, and subtle cues predict chemistry and reveal intentions. The book entertains while providing tools to interpret thumbs as the new language of love.

When Florence Williams' 25-year marriage unexpectedly ends, she embarks on a journey to understand the science behind heartbreak. She travels to the frontiers of 'social pain' research, undergoes various experiments such as testing her blood for genetic markers of grief and experiencing electrical shocks while viewing pictures of her ex. Williams also explores the physiological impacts of heartbreak, including its effects on immune cells and overall health. Her journey includes nature getaways, canoeing and rafting trips, and even experimenting with psychedelic drugs. The book is a blend of personal narrative and scientific inquiry, offering insights into loneliness, health, and the complexities of love and heartbreak.