Sleeping Around What Is Kink? Understanding BDSM with Stefani Goerlich
Jun 11, 2025
Stefani Goerlich, a certified sex therapist and author specializing in BDSM and kink, joins to unravel the world of kink and BDSM. She explains the components of BDSM, emphasizing that it's about consensual exchanges of control. Stefani shares tips for introducing kink to partners using media, and suggests beginner practices to ease into these dynamics. Breaking stereotypes, she reassures that desires are valid and discusses the key differences between consensual kink and abuse. A must-listen for anyone curious about exploring their fantasies!
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Introduce Kink Using Media
- Introduce kink by externalizing with media like a movie or book and discuss themes together.
- Use that distance to ask what your partner liked, disliked, or found curious before making requests.
Start DS With Small Daily Rituals
- Start dominance/submission with small daily rituals like choosing underwear or laying out clothes.
- Use symbolic gestures to build a submissive headspace without demanding major behavior changes.
Practical Sex-Play Starters And Safety
- Bring kink into sex by intensifying everyday acts: choose lingerie, create rituals, or use simple restraints like ties or belts.
- Learn basic safety and knots online for confidence and to avoid harming your partner.
