Modern Wisdom #935 - Crappy Childhood Fairy - Limerence Explained: Why Do We Get Addicted To People?
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May 1, 2025 
Anna Runkle, also known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, is a trauma educator and author focused on healing from childhood trauma. She dives into the fascinating world of limerence, explaining how it differs from infatuation and why some people experience intense, obsessive feelings towards others. Runkle explores the psychological underpinnings of limerence, the impact of childhood experiences, and how societal media shapes our perceptions of love. Additionally, she offers practical advice for navigating and overcoming unhealthy attachments.
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Pedestalization Distorts Reality
- Limerents pedestalize their limerent object, skewing self-worth and often misreading intentions.
- This dynamic frequently leads to repeated cycles of obsession with unavailable partners.
Hope Exploited by Industry
- Magical thinking and industries like tarot and astrology prey on limerent people's hope for reunion.
- Limerents often seek validation through such beliefs, spending money for false reassurance.
Limerent Object vs Reality
- The limerent object is largely a creation of the limerent's imagination, distinct from the real person.
- Conflict arises when reality contradicts the limerent's idealized story.
