LATE BLOOMERS PEOPLE PLEASER REHAB: 10 challenges to finally put yourself first
Feb 11, 2026
They lay out 10 practical challenges to interrupt people-pleasing habits like saying yes when you mean no and apologising for existing. Real-life tasks include returning a wrong meal, telling a hairdresser the truth, canceling plans honestly, and refusing to laugh at offensive jokes. The conversation explores where these patterns come from and how to tolerate the discomfort of choosing your own needs.
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Politely Return The Wrong Meal
- Send back the wrong meal politely and request what you actually ordered instead of accepting the substitute to avoid self-abandonment.
- Rox frames this as small practice in asserting needs: say “I actually ordered the lasagna” and expect staff to correct it without drama.
Speak Up During Your Haircut
- Tell your hairdresser in the chair if you don't like the cut so you can educate them and get repeat improvements.
- Rox suggests gentle feedback like “next time I'd like it a bit different” rather than dramatic confrontation.
Say No Without Excuses
- Practice saying no without long excuses or over-apologising; simple replies like “Unfortunately I'm not available” are enough.
- Rox warns people-pleasing adds unnecessary backstory; keep refusals brief and honest.