How to Recover From a Breakup and Heal Your Heart | E81

Let’s be real: you’re not just “going through a breakup” — you’re surviving a full-on emotional earthquake. Your appetite’s gone, your brain is a 24/7 rerun of “Why did they leave?”, and you may or may not be having one-way convos with your ex in the shower. (Again: no judgment.)

In this episode, I’m walking you through how to recover from a breakup in a way that’s grounded, healthy, and actually works. As a therapist, marriage counselor, and coach, I’ve supported thousands of people through this. But I’ve also been through it myself. And I want you to know this: you’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You’re heartbroken. And there’s a way forward that doesn’t involve self-blame, emotional spirals, or texting your ex “just to check in.”

Let’s talk about why breakups hit us so hard, the science behind love and loss, and what you can actually do to start feeling like yourself again.

Timestamps: 00:00 – Understanding Breakups and Recovery 02:11 – You’re Not the Only One 11:38 – Love Is a Drug (Literally) 25:13 – What Actually Helps You Heal 28:39 – Don’t Do This Alone 31:53 – Embracing Grief and Healing 36:38 – Heartbreak Recovery Breakup recovery is never a straight line. This kind of pain runs deep because love runs deep. But that also means your capacity for healing—and even for joy—is just as deep.

If you’re wondering what your next step should be, you don’t have to guess. You can take the guesswork out of your healing journey with a simple, free tool we created for exactly this moment.

👉 Take the “How Over Your Ex Are You?” Breakup Quiz. In just a few minutes, you’ll get a clear picture of where you are in the healing process—and, more importantly, what to do next. Whether you're still in the raw withdrawal phase or teetering on the edge of freedom, this quiz will point you in the right direction with clarity and compassion.

And if after reading this, you’re thinking, “I just need someone to talk to—someone who gets it and knows how to help,”we’ve got you. Our team of expert breakup recovery coaches—who are also licensed therapists—specialize in helping people just like you move through the pain, confusion, and obsession... and come out stronger on the other side.

👉 Schedule a free consultation to talk with an expert on our team. Your story isn’t over. In fact, this is the beginning of the most powerful chapter yet.

Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby www.growingself.com

P.S. If someone you love is hurting right now — maybe a friend, sister, or your group chat buddy who’s just been ghosted — please forward this to them. We all need a little extra support sometimes, and this might be the exact message they need to hear today.