Late Diagnosis Club: How Shyloe Learned to Care for Her Sensitive Heart After Late Diagnosis

In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Shyloe Fayad, a late-diagnosed Autistic school counsellor and somatic experiencing practitioner based on the stolen land of the Syilx people of the Okanagan in Canada.

Shyloe works both within schools and in private practice, supporting neurodivergent people, mixed race communities, and teens and adults navigating depression and anxiety.

Together, Angela and Shyloe explore sensitivity, boundaries, and the quiet but radical act of honouring your own needs in a culture that often teaches you not to.

🪑 Attendees

Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate

Guest: Shyloe Fayad — Late-diagnosed Autistic School counsellor and somatic experiencing practitioner

You: The Listener!

🗒️ Meeting Agenda

• Opening remarks from the Chair
• Member introduction: Learning to trust your own needs
• Discussion: Sensitivity, boundaries, and self-trust
• Late diagnosis and identity integration
• Cultural conditioning and productivity expectations
• Emotional processing and internal timing
• Accountability vs compassion
• Key learnings
• Club announcements

🧾 Minutes from the Meeting

1️⃣ Opening Remarks

Angela welcomes Shyloe Fayad to the club, introducing a conversation centred on emotional sensitivity, self-trust, and rebuilding your relationship with yourself after a late diagnosis.

2️⃣ Member Introduction: Shyloe’s Story

Shyloe was raised in environments that prioritised productivity, deadlines, and external expectations over internal needs. Over time, this led to a disconnection from her own timing and instincts, something she began to recognise and unlearn following her late Autism diagnosis.

Her work as a counsellor and somatic practitioner informs this perspective, grounding the conversation in the body, nervous system, and the lived experience of navigating a world that often teaches people not to trust themselves.

3️⃣ Discussion Highlights

• Sensitivity: Experiencing the world deeply and needing space to process
• Self-trust: Relearning how to listen to internal signals
• Cultural conditioning: Being taught your needs are “less important”
• Productivity pressure: Deadlines overriding well-being
• Women and masking: Social expectations shaping behaviour
• Accountability vs compassion: The tension between rules and humanity
• Black-and-white thinking: Wanting clear rules in complex social situations
• Community: Drawing strength from like-minded people
• Emotional care: Protecting your “sensitive heart”

4️⃣ Key Learnings

• You have been taught not to trust your needs — and that can be unlearned.
• Sensitivity is not a weakness, but something to be protected.
• There is no perfect rulebook for being human — only ongoing adjustment.
• Accountability and compassion must coexist.
• Late diagnosis is the beginning of rebuilding self-trust.
• Community can help you navigate a world that feels misaligned.
• Honouring your needs is a practice, not a one-time decision.
• You can start again — as many times as you need.

📌 Notice Board

• Contact Shyloe: radicalwondering@gmail.com
• Shyloe’s Instagram
• Radical Wondering Instagram
• Facebook: Shyloe Fayad

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