The Catholic Coaching Podcast 45. Is "should" any good?
Jun 3, 2021
A conversation about the many ways we say we “should” and how those obligations shape decisions. They trace the word’s roots, give everyday examples, and distinguish true duties from arbitrary rules. Practical tips include listing shoulds, swapping in “could,” and watching for resentment as a sign something needs rethinking.
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Should Literally Means Obligation
- Should comes from shall and implies obligation rather than mere preference.
- Saying should binds you to a commitment, so be intentional about which obligations you take on freely.
Good Shoulds Can Mature Into Loving Choices
- Good shoulds are moral obligations that align with truth and help you grow toward charity.
- Over time obligations can mature from duty into acts of love when infused by the virtue of charity and God's grace.
Write Your Shoulds Down And Swap Could For Should
- Dump all your personal shoulds on paper and substitute could for should to test free will and intention.
- This reveals arbitrary rules like I should not drink a second cup of coffee and helps decide whether it's a real commitment.