The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 262: 'I'm not ready/able for a relationship right now...'
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May 20, 2022 A frank look at what hearing “I’m not ready” really signals and why you should believe it. Exploration of mismatched words and actions and how to spot manipulative patterns. Advice on grieving hopes, avoiding waiting traps, and checking your own baggage. Clear guidance on setting boundaries, protecting yourself, and acting with self-respect.
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Believe When They Say They Are Not Ready
- If someone says they are not ready for a relationship, take it as a clear signal that you are not on the same page.
- Natalie Lue frames it as a code amber: stop, look, listen and proceed with caution because words and intentions differ.
Not Ready Used As A Recurring Line
- Some people use 'not ready' as a recurring line to keep ambiguity and fringe benefits like sex or emotional support.
- Natalie shares that such people capitalize on others' feelings while avoiding commitment repeatedly.
Actions And Words Must Align
- Mixed messages matter: when words and actions don't match, you can't cherry-pick the version you prefer.
- Natalie highlights that focusing on either words or actions biases you toward what you want to believe, creating problems.