The Most Eye-Opening Conversation on Marriage & Love You Will Ever Hear (From #1 Divorce Lawyer)

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Mar 5, 2026

James Sexton, a top divorce lawyer and author of How to Stay in Love, shares hard-earned relationship wisdom from decades in court. He explains why slow disconnection breaks marriages, why tiny weekly rituals and small gestures matter, how social media and unmet needs fuel infidelity, and practical ways to de-escalate fights and rebuild connection.

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INSIGHT

Disconnection Is The Hidden Cause Of Divorce

Disconnection is the root cause of most divorces, not single catastrophic events.
Sexton: multiple small 'raindrops' of neglect add up into a flood of disconnection over time.

INSIGHT

Marriage Fails If You Expect No Change Or Complete Change

Couples make two contradictory mistakes: expecting a partner to change after marriage and expecting them never to change.
Sexton warns both beliefs are unrealistic given life's inevitable changes over decades together.

ADVICE

Do A 10 Minute Weekly Love Check

Do spend 10 minutes a week explicitly checking in about what made your partner feel loved and where you missed the mark.
James Sexton suggests asking two weekly questions: three things I did that made you feel loved and three things I missed this week.

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Mel calls today’s episode one of the most moving, meaningful, and transformational conversations ever to happen on the podcast.

She says it is THE most important relationship advice that she has ever heard and you will ever hear.

Today’s guest, James Sexton, is a world-renowned authority on relationships, but coming from a perspective you may not expect.

He’s the author of the bestselling book How to Stay in Love. But he’s also one of the top divorce attorneys in the world, which means for decades he's had a front-row seat to what makes marriages thrive – and the reason why marriages fall apart.

He’s going to tell you most breakups don’t happen because of something catastrophic. They result from all the little mistakes over time that everyone misses.

Today, he’ll teach you what those mistakes are and convince you that a few small changes are the secret to creating a lasting and loving relationship.

And unlike most relationship advice you’ll hear, his advice isn’t theoretical. It’s built on what he’s seen thousands of couples do when it’s working… and when it’s not.

You’ll learn:

-How you can save (or strengthen) any marriage in 10 minutes a week

-The #1 thing that leads to infidelity (it’s not what you think) and how to avoid it

-How to tell if your marriage is over

-The reason relationships and marriages fail

-How to argue in a productive way

-How to tell if you’re in the wrong relationship

-The habits of all successful relationships

If you’re single, this is what sets the foundation for a healthy relationship.

If you’re in a relationship, this is what allows it to deepen, strengthen, and evolve with you.

If you’re suffering from a breakup or a divorce, this will not only make you believe in love again, but it will also give you the road map to create it.

This is one of the most important conversations that has been had on this podcast to date. Mel cannot wait for you and everybody that you love or have loved to experience it.

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