Notes From the New World Escaping the Perfectionist “Pain is Progress” Trap with Antonia Dolhaine
252: "Perfection is never about the perfection. It's about what we think being perfect will get us." - Antonia Dolhaine
Perfectionists who are ready to be released from the cold, hard grip perfectionism has trapped you in - this episode with Antonia Dolhaine, a Somatic Depth Coach and Artist, is for you.
Snippets:
- "We live in a globally connected world now, but our evolutionary hardwiring is not updated yet. So we still operate socially in these very tribal ways. So we could be 99% the same, but we'll zero in on that 1% difference and blow it up and experience it as a threat in our nervous systems."
- "Every single perfectionist I've ever worked with, including myself, has at its core been seeking a sense of relaxation. They've just been trying to relax at all costs. And the threat of rejection, of being exiled from the tribe, if they're being seen a certain way, feels so intense and creates so much tension that they get stuck in this bind."
- "What they're actually afraid of most of the time is that they will agree with other people's rejections and use it to reject themselves."
- "For people who fear rejection, it's what they don't realize a lot of the time is it's not, it's less being rejected by others that they fear, even though that's what they think their main fear is. What they're actually afraid of most of the time is that they will agree with other people's rejections and use it to reject themselves."
- "Perfection is never about the perfection. It's about what we think being perfect will get us."
If you’re ready to escape the chokehold perfectionism has on you, Antonia is here to help.
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