EP 256: When Behavior Feels Personal, It Might Actually Be Sensory

Have you ever had one of those moments where your child completely loses it over the wrong cup, a sibling getting too close, or one tiny thing at the end of the day? It can feel like they are actually mad at you- or their sibling. But actually, rude, defiant, or shutdown behavior might actually have a lot more to do with sensory overwhelm and a nervous system that’s simply run out of capacity and almost NOTHING to do with how mad they are because you gave them the wrong cup. 

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why behaviors like sass, sibling aggression, and “you never listen!” can look relational but actually begin with sensory stress in the body
• How everyday sensory input like noise, lights, smells, textures, movement, and school environments can chip away at your child’s window of tolerance?
• Why noticing your child’s sensory world can help you respond with more clarity, less personalization, and more support for regulation

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• When Parenting Triggers Your Own Trauma Part 1 of 6 {EP 250}
• Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior {EP 84}
• Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior webinar & eBook

Read the full transcript at:RobynGobbel.com/traumashapednervoussystem

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