Listener question: can you say more about watching the behaviour?

Listener question: Can you say more about watching the behavior  - not the self - witnessing the behavior? You keep inviting us to inquire into what is happening in this behavior and in suffering. Feeling the sensations not as self.

All I can see is just selfing, selfing, and more selfing - I thought this was the behavior. Brain creating a self as thought and then claiming something, rejecting something, trying to nail this thought of self to the floor. Suffering with each new storyline about the self and how it's not liked or failing or about to lose or is a victim or is right, etc. I can see that this is conditioning, that it keeps happening, and feel exhausted by it. It still feels real, like there is a self to secure, that must be defended and protected and can lose.  

It feels like there's another layer that you're pointing at that's not been seen yet.