Complex with Kimberley Wilson Do you worry about having 'enough' friends?
Feb 25, 2026
Dr Martha Deiros Collado, a clinical psychologist who specialises in difficult relationships and family dynamics, joins to explore friendships. They unpack what makes a friend supportive versus harmful. Practical markers, how long bonds take to form, barriers adults face and small ways to nurture connection are all discussed.
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Friendship Is Trust And Feeling Seen
- Friendship is defined by trust, mutual respect and feeling seen rather than mere proximity or obligation.
- Dr Martha Deiros Collado contrasts friendship with family, stressing acceptance of good and bad as the core that makes friendships distinct.
Zainab's Career Tradeoff Left Her Friendless Anxiety
- Listener Zainab describes prioritising career over friendships, frequent childhood moves, and anxiety about being ignored in group chats.
- Kimberley and Dr Martha respond that this experience is common and often linked to time spent on work and social disruption in childhood.
Adults Lose The Easy Places To Meet People
- Adult friendship opportunities shrink because we have fewer 'third spaces' beyond home and work, making casual encounters rare.
- Cultural factors, moving frequently, immigrant norms and neurodivergence also change where and how friendships form.