The Place We Find Ourselves 24 How Healing Happens Part 1
Nov 20, 2018
They explore what must be faced in family-of-origin stories to allow healing to begin. The conversation maps a descent into painful memories using the U-diagram metaphor and a Christian pattern of death, wilderness, and rise. Practical guidance covers sensory scene-setting, lingering in primary emotions, neurobiology of feeling, affect regulation, and staying kind to your younger self.
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Enter The Stories Your Body Points To
- Healing requires you to re-enter childhood stories that hold intense feelings like shame, terror, or betrayal.
- Your body will guide you to the stories you need to engage for real change.
From 30,000 Feet To Ground-Level Detail
- Telling trauma 'at 30,000 feet' keeps you safely distant and avoids core emotions.
- Ground-level details like a bedspread or crossword cue bring the body into the scene.
Stay Longer Than You're Comfortable
- Linger in painful memories long enough to feel the original emotions and bodily sensations.
- Start with 30–60 seconds and gradually extend as hope and regulation increase.