Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

256: How Many Piercings Should a Teen Have?

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Jan 27, 2026
A teenage request for another piercing sparks a wider talk about boundaries, autonomy, and identity. Conversation covers cultural norms, practical consequences of piercing locations, and why some choices feel urgent to teens. Listeners hear about using waiting to preserve healthy tension, an empathy exercise to resolve stalemates, and guidance on sensible compromises.
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INSIGHT

Piercings As Identity Work

  • Teen piercings primarily serve as self-expression and identity exploration during adolescence.
  • Lisa Damour frames this desire as a normal, healthy boundary-pushing stage of development.
ANECDOTE

Cultural Norms Around Ear Piercing

  • Reena Ninan describes cultural norms where babies get ears pierced early and gold jewelry is common in India.
  • She contrasts that with her conservative parents who disapproved of multiple piercings.
ANECDOTE

Lisa's Third Piercing Story

  • Lisa Damour got a third ear piercing at 17 in a hospital hallway from nurses with clean needles.
  • She doesn't recall asking her parents and felt it wasn't a major issue in her family.
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