The Michelle Chalfant Show — Life from the Adult Chair 437: High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole
13 snips
Dec 19, 2024 
Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship expert, dives into high-functioning codependency, shedding light on its roots in societal expectations and family dynamics. She reveals how go-getters often sacrifice their well-being while managing others' lives. Terri offers insights on recognizing unhealthy patterns, the difference between guilt and shame, and the significance of setting boundaries. Listeners will appreciate her practical strategies for fostering genuine connections and reclaiming personal freedom.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Trying to Fix Others
- Terri Cole recounts her struggle with her sister's abusive relationship, highlighting her codependent tendencies.
- Her therapist helped her realize her attempts to control the situation stemmed from her own pain.
Codependency vs. HFC
- Codependency and high-functioning codependency share the same foundation: trying to control others' outcomes.
- HFCs are often high-achievers, masking their codependency with competence.
Prioritize Yourself
- Prioritizing yourself over others is not selfish; it prevents resentment and burnout.
- Focus on your own needs and feelings to cultivate healthier, more authentic relationships.
