Why We Quit Too Soon, and How to Keep Going

Do you think of your beliefs as immutable facts? If so, you might be holding yourself back.

In this episode of Hello Monday, Jessi Hempel sits down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author whose work sits at the intersection of psychology, technology, and human potential. His latest book, Beyond Belief, explores how the stories we tell ourselves shape our motivation, and how changing those stories can change our outcomes.

In this conversation, Jessi and Nir explore how limiting beliefs take hold, why our brains default to helplessness, and how we can challenge the narratives that keep us stuck.

Jessi and Nir discuss:

• Why beliefs should be treated as tools, not truths
• How limiting beliefs undermine motivation and progress
• The “motivation triangle” and why belief is essential to action
• Why we often quit too early, and what a famous rat experiment reveals about persistence
• A practical method for questioning assumptions and collecting new perspectives
• Why visualization can actually hurt motivation, and what to do instead
• The difference between pain and suffering, and why separating the two matters

At the heart of Nir’s work is a simple idea: our minds default to safety and survival, not growth. But when we learn to question the beliefs that hold us back, we can unlock more motivation, agency, and possibility in our lives.

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