We Heart Therapy EP 104: Healing Addiction, Shame & Trauma with EFT | Dr. Belle & EFT Trainer Michael Barnett LPC
Sep 2, 2025
Michael Barnett, an EFT Trainer and author specializing in addiction, joins Dr. Belle to delve into the transformative powers of Emotionally Focused Therapy. They discuss how EFT fosters self-compassion and emotional healing, especially regarding shame and trauma. The conversation highlights the vital role of attachment in recovery and the importance of a supportive partnership in overcoming addiction. Listeners gain practical insights from Barnett’s new workbook, aimed at both therapists and those seeking to break the cycle of addiction.
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Empathy Dissolves Shame And Sparks Change
- Humanizing the using partner reduces shame and opens attachment channels.
- When partners respond with empathy, the using partner often wants to move away from addiction to protect the relationship.
Shame Blocks Comfort Seeking
- Shame is distinct from guilt: shame says 'I am bad' and blocks seeking comfort.
- Addiction often numbs shame-driven beliefs of unworthiness that prevent asking for help.
Map Function Before Judging Behavior
- Map the addiction's function in the attachment and emotional cycle without moralizing.
- Highlight what the behavior gives and what it costs the relationship to open pathways for change.
