Chasing Excellence Where Do You Feel Most Alive? Why Growing Together Beats Going Alone (w/ Daniel Coyle)
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Feb 12, 2026 
Daniel Coyle, author of Flourish who studies how communities create shared growth. He explores why aliveness comes from belonging, the two attention systems that shift us from doing to connecting, and simple awakening cues and rituals that nudge presence. He also explains “yellow doors” — saying yes to small risks that build deeper relationships and how leaders can tend groups like gardeners.
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Flourish Is A Shared Experience
- Flourishing is joyful, meaningful growth shared rather than individual achievement.
- Daniel Coyle argues the deepest life experiences happen in community, not solo success.
Two Attention Systems Shape Connection
- Humans have two attention systems: narrow task attention and wide relational attention.
- Flourishing spaces switch off task attention and switch on relational attention to create presence.
A Ring As An Awakening Cue
- Ari Weinsweig at Zingerman's used a casual cue, pointing to a wedding ring, to reframe a $50M offer decision.
- That awakening cue nudged Coyle to value rooted commitments over scaling opportunities.
