All Out with Jon Dean HOOK-UP APP ETIQUETTE: “NO Response IS a Response!” with Jeff Thurm
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Sep 1, 2025 
Jeff Thurm, a TikTok content creator known for his humorous take on Grindr etiquette, dives into the unspoken rules of hook-up app behavior. He shares insights on how to initiate conversations and emphasizes the importance of consent before sharing photos. The duo discusses the nuanced meaning of silence in communication and introduces a three-strike rule for follow-ups. Jeff advocates for polite honesty in expressing disinterest and tackles issues like unsolicited nudes and the challenge of truly connecting in a digital landscape.
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Open With Hello And Intent
- Start Grindr chats with a greeting and clarify consent before sending pictures.
- Ask what someone is looking for early to avoid mismatched expectations.
No Response Depends On Context
- No response can mean different things depending on context and frequency.
- Treat repeated unanswered messages (4+) as a likely rejection rather than persistence.
Persistence And Honesty Clash
- Jeff admitted he messages people multiple times until he knows they're uninterested.
- He appreciates when others are honest and say "it's not a match."