Conversations with Dr. Jennifer Making Peace with Our Sexuality
Feb 10, 2026
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D., and author of That We Might Have Joy, explores sexual integration and why suppressing desire fragments us. She tells vivid stories, contrasts repression with eros energy, and explains how attraction, self-intimacy, and touch shape deeper connection and marital freedom.
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Extreme Scrupulosity Stalled Development
- Samuel obeyed chastity rules so rigidly he avoided dating and even touching himself to wash.
- His extreme repression left him stuck in his parents' basement and unable to form adult intimacy.
Integration, Not Suppression, Is The Goal
- Sexual repression doesn't equal spirituality; sexual integration is the moral goal instead.
- Integration means accepting embodiment while making choices that strengthen life and relationships.
Repression Fuels Obsession
- Repression drives obsession and increases the mental bandwidth spent resisting sexual thoughts.
- Trying to quash sexuality with more spirituality often backfires and magnifies sexual preoccupation.
